If we were to choose only one thing that we consider to be the most important reasons for success, then I have no doubt that it is to set goals of value and to know the ways to reach them, and this has been proven by several studies in this field. It was observed that, once the goal is clear and clear, one’s capabilities multiply, his activity increases, his mind wakes up, his motives move, and ideas that serve his purpose are generated.
In the middle of the last century, a behavioral research team from Harvard Business School – took a random sample, numbering one hundred of the final year students, and asked them: What each of them wants to be after ten years of graduation, they all answered: They want to be influential forces in Money and business world.
The researchers noted that only ten of the 100 students set specific, detailed, written goals, and worked out plans to achieve them.
Ten years later, the research team itself made follow-up visits to the entire sample and found that what these ten people had in writing had set their goals – equivalent to (96%) of the total wealth of others .
Clear goals allow an individual to overcome obstacles and obstacles, and accomplish in a short time more than what others achieve in a long time.
That is because a person without a goal is a lost person. Can we imagine a pilot who is taking off and has no place he wants to reach or a map that leads to that place? Where does it end up flying? Perhaps his fuel is exhausted, his plane is aired, and he is thinking: Where is he going, and where is the plan that leads him to his destination!
One of the business leaders says: The strong focus on a particular goal is the decisive factor in success, whether in matters of money or something else, and he adds:
There are two conditions for brilliant success: to define for yourself exactly what you want and to know the price that must be paid, and be prepared to push it.
Most people leave their lives in harmony without a goal; therefore, they do not achieve significant success, and those who know the value of challenging goals, have learned this; either from their families, or they come across a virtuous educator, or a teacher who understands the value of that, so he opens their eyes to him, and unfortunately this matter does not teach Schools or universities; one’s education may extend to more than (16) years without receiving one hour in which they are dedicated to talking about (setting goals and ways to achieve them).
Young people can be trained in (the art of setting goals) at an early age, so parents set easy goals for them from their reality, and encourage them to achieve them, such as waking up at a certain hour, memorizing some poems, reading some books, or mastering some types of useful sports such as swimming, running, Etc.
Perhaps one of the reasons for being reluctant to set goals – after being ignorant of their importance – is the fear that others will not respect and criticize our goals, and here we can take the wisdom that: “seek the success of your needs with discretion”. The way to achieve it.
Another reason to be reluctant to set goals is fear of failure.
Most people do not realize the importance of failure to prepare for success, the great success is preceded by – mostly – a major failure and the researcher (Napoleon Hill) interviewed more than (500) people who achieved high degrees of success, and found them all – without exception – have achieved Success after facing failure, but they decided to take another step after failure, so they got what they wanted.
The greatest inventor of modern times, Thomas Edison, (failed ten thousand times) in his experiments on the light bulb before he succeeded in inventing it! One of the journalists asked him: Mr. Edison, you have so far failed five thousand times in inventing the light bulb, so why do you insist on moving forward with your experiences? He replied: You have sinned, young man, I have succeeded in discovering five thousand ways that do not get me to what I want!
Most people prefer to stay in the (safety zone), and for this, they accept their current situation and do not think about change, while most of those who achieve significant success leave this region, and they accept a reasonable level of risk. Change is inevitable, but most people fear it. And, at the same time, they wish to achieve what they want, and wisdom requires us to accept change as long as necessary and to make it under our control as much as possible, and for that, we must have clear goals.
There are three things that are of particular importance in relation to the subject of the objectives:
First: What is known as: (the area of ??excellence):
Every person has a certain aspect in which he can excel, and his duty towards himself is to discover this aspect and make the best use of it.
It is unfortunate to see people who spend much of their lives in a humble field, convinced of inferiority, who do not strive for progress and progress, that the one who seeks to excel in the right field that suits him is not only superior, but his productive capacity and his psychological health are improving, but also improving, but also improving. He looks in the mirror and sees in front of him a layman in everything, who has no advantage, how does he feel to appreciate himself? Unless I know that there is one area – at least – I can excel in it, I cannot respect myself and give it the necessary right of appreciation.
Second: the so-called: (diamond field):
The reason for this designation is a famous story about an ordinary African farmer, who worked on his farm until he got old, and one day this farmer heard that some people travel in search of diamonds, which he finds from them becomes very rich; enthusiasm for the idea, sold his field and set out in search of diamonds.
The man remained thirteen years searching until he realized his despair and did not realize his dream, so he threw himself in the sea to be food for fish, but the new farmer who had bought our friend’s field while working in the field and found something shining, and when he picked him and found him a small piece of diamonds, he got excited, And he started digging and digging hard and diligently, so he found again and again! Surprisingly, it was under his field a diamond mine!
The old man looked for diamonds everywhere and did not search in his field, and he may have found a diamond that did not catch her because the diamond becomes beautiful only after cutting, shaping, and polishing, and the significance of the story:
The secret of excellence may be closer to one of us from the place of his feet, but we do not pay attention to him, then talent like a diamond does not attract attention only after cutting and polishing, so when one wants to set goals for him in order to achieve it, he has to look at what he has, and does not go to the end of the world in search of a goal worthy of achievement.
Third: the balance of goals necessary for the balance of personality:
In order to have a balance in goals resulting from a balanced personality, one needs to have one goal – at least – that falls under each of the six collars, and if he achieves it, he will move to others.
It is important that the goals are not contradictory, so it is not permissible – for example – that my goal is to spend half of my time entertaining and playing, and excelling at work at the same time, and also our goals must be achievable; we do not set an imaginable goal that is impossible to achieve, and we spend a lifetime running after it, We don’t realize it
Here are a number of questions that help one set goal:
? List five things that you consider the most important thing you want to get, and that you are ready to do for them.
? In thirty seconds, write the three most important goals you want to get at the present time, and we have been given a very short time because what you write without knowledge and thought is a real goal far from decorating and beautifying imagination.
? If you were given a large amount of money, what is the first thing you do? What is the second thing?
? If you knew that you would only live for six months, what would you do?
Remember the goal you crave, but you fear and retreat from seeking it, because your fear may not have a balance of reality, but it is a fear usually associated with success.
? What are the conditions and circumstances that give you the highest levels of self-realization, that is: feeling valuable and important? The answer to this question determines your area of ??excellence and helps you direct your life towards it.
And after using these questions, choose for yourself one clear goal that you consider more important than the other, and not more than one goal that you start with.
A suggested way to achieve the goals:
There is a successful way to achieve the goals, it has been confirmed that it succeeds in hundreds of cases, a method that if you follow it achieves to you in one year what is not achieved in others in years, by the grace of God and good success. This method consists of the following steps:
Start with a strong, sincere desire, your goal must be very desirable to you and emanating from within you, not a desire that someone else wants for you.
Build-in yourself complete confidence that you will obtain your goal, God willing, without doubt, or doubt, because if your conscious mind fully believes your goals, your subconscious (or your subconscious) will believe those goals, and thus direct your behavior towards achieving them, and your goals will be realistic, for example: If your weight is (100) kg, then your first goal is not to decrease (30) kg of it, start with: (5) kg, then move to the other five, but do not make your goal very easy because the challenge is necessary to find the motivation to exert effort.
3- Write down your goals:
Writing goals on a sheet are very important. It is like writing a computer program that enters the subconscious, writing the goal in all its possible details. If you want to have a beautiful house, do not write: I want a beautiful house, but write – for example -: I want a house in which six Rooms, in an upscale neighborhood, have a garden, a spacious balcony, fresh views, and?
Specialists in “goal psychology” have said: A goal, if not written, is a desire, not a goal.
4- Determine your benefit in achieving your goal:
Write down all the benefits you will get if your goal is achieved. If it appears that the benefits are few, your pursuit of the goal will be weak, but if it is many important, the goal becomes an irresistible attraction.
5- Determine where you are now and where you want to reach:
If you want to lose weight, make sure of your current weight, and determine how much you want to pour into the next stage.
6- Make an appointment to reach the goal:
This helps you to make your goal measurable. You will not achieve much success until you know how many steps you must take, how many of you have been cut off, and how much you have left.
7- Determine the obstacles that you have to overcome:
If there are no obstacles, then what you are looking for is not a goal, but activity and movement, and you will notice that the obstacles that seemed large would look smaller after you write them.
8- Determine the information needed to reach the goal:
Most of the goals – in our time – require achieving good knowledge, the necessary knowledge may be found in books, or in the market, or for some people, or you can obtain it from (the Internet).
9- Identify the people who need your help to achieve the goal:
Maybe you can use someone to reach your goal, so why not ask for help? It could be an individual, a body, an association, or a company.
In this regard, remember that life is giving and take. If you can give something to someone who asks for help, then do, ask yourself: What can I give others before they give me? The great throughout history gives more than they take, but unfortunately, most people want to get what works for them with the least amount of effort and giving.
10- Draw a business plan:
Create a business plan taking advantage of the points previously mentioned, write down the activities that you will undertake, arrange the priorities, set the time required, then amend the plan as you progress in the implementation, or you get new information, or errors appear to you, or new obstacles are encountered in your face if you Those who achieve the highest success always have a plan that defines work over days, weeks, and months.
11- Imagine that your goal has been achieved:
Imagine clearly that your goal has already been achieved as if you see it on TV, repeat this frequently, the amount of goal achieved is as clear as his image in your mind.