How To Change Your Life In 30 Days? I want to tell you a short but important story about how making focused changes in your life can positively impact your entire existence. Here’s how I did it…
In January, I thought of an idea so ambitious that those around me considered it ridiculous: to move to another city without knowing anyone or having a concrete plan. While this may have seemed like a haphazard decision to others, I looked at it as a logical step in my evolution of growth.
How To Change Your Life In 30 Days?
The haters, doubters, and non-believers were telling me to go the other way – to stay where things are comfortable and predictable. And they had a point. At the time, I was working successfully as a server, making amazing money, driving a nice car, and enjoying my weekends at the beach. While it seems like paradise, I wasn’t fulfilled, so I started planning my next step.
I knew I had to take a chance, so I packed up and left my city
Fast-forward to June, when I made the leap by boarding a plane with a one-way ticket to Austin, Texas. I was on my way to secure a job in a new town that I knew nothing about, relying mostly on a little research and stories rife with “Yeah, Austin is the music capital of the world” and “Austin [Texas] is the shit.” After landing in Austin, I rode my wave of excitement to my AirBnb and got to sleep, knowing tomorrow would be the start of my adventure.
I woke up at around 8:30 AM, put on clothes, and ran out the door, into the thronging metropolis. Having nowhere to go and no one to guide me, I wandered down the road to the closest park to gather my thoughts about what I had just gotten myself into. I remember walking up a mound surrounded by kids playing, Austinites jogging, and a dog barking. As I slowly ascended the hill, the Austin Skyline was revealed, and when something hit me: I was finally doing something for myself and following my heart, instead of only serving the needs of others. It was at that moment that I knew I belonged in Austin. So I secured a job to steady myself financially and moved permanently to Austin in August.
Changing my mindset completely changed my life
While it’s difficult to fully express, the lessons I have learned since beginning this journey have been life experiences I cannot (nor would I want to) trade-in for nice, shiny objects. From the outset, I have been amazed at what maintaining a positive, growth mindset and challenging myself has done for me.
Given my experiences, I want to share with you the value I have found in challenging myself in different ways and why it is crucial to not allow those around you to inhibit your pursuit of what satisfies you.
The non-believer, haters, discriminators, and doubters will spit in your face!
I have had my dreams and journey judged. People have called my plans crazy. As they saw it, it made no sense for me to move to a completely unfamiliar place where I didn’t know anyone. But these were the people who I saw as drowning their lives away at the bar. Why would I let their beer-soaked opinions and comments drown me? If you have people in your life that are drowning your ideas or holding you back, I suggest you get rid of them as soon as possible. As I’ve learned, if you put the best version of yourself out there, you will attract like-minded, supportive, and reliable friends.
The Universe will help you get you to where you want to be.
I recently finished The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. One of my main takeaways from the book is in this quote “And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” From this quote, I’ve taken the idea that you have to take action and go for it. If you are not actively pursuing what you are after, you can’t say you tried; you are merely sitting around waiting for something to happen. You absolutely must be active in your journeying by sticking to your agendas, striving for your goals, and focusing on self-improvements. You have to trust yourself and take the leap to venture forth and realize your calling. The universe will help you achieve what it is you are looking to achieve. It helped me, and it will help you too.
Get rid of the fear of failure
Let’s be honest, no one wants to fail. We want to be successful in whatever we do. But failure is just part of the game of life. Personally, I look at failure as the best thing that can happen. By failing, you learn from your mistake and grow. I looked at my situation like this: if moving to Austin did not work out for me, I would know my worst-case scenario was moving back home to pick up where I left my old life. This “comfortable scenario” will always be there. I encourage you to think about what your worst-case scenario is. Failing can teach you a lot, as it has done for me. Failing has allowed me to become much more versatile and flexible in the face of challenges.
It sounds simple but you have to realize that the people you want to be like are in the position they are because they took action. They were not satisfied with the status quo. “But Nick, how do I take action? I want this that and a bag of kit kits.” First, establish what it is you want. Then, tell yourself you can do it. Sounds simple, right? Now how are you going to get to that point? Establish a game plan just like a soccer team or basketball team. Then what you have written down is what you need to do to accomplish, whatever it is you’re after. Find out what you want, create a game plan, and execute. EXECUTE! You need to follow through. It sounds simple, but taking action is one of the keys to success.
There will never be a perfect moment
There is a lot of beauty in not having the perfect moment. Nothing is ever going to be perfect. Before I go any further, get this terrible notion out of your head: we are always waiting, not taking action, for the chance to pounce. You must pounce and make that moment yours. When I made my journey to Austin, my father was not in the best medical condition but he was on the road to recovery. In addition to that situation, I also left behind most of the other members of my family. The moment I chose to leave them was not a fairy-tale sendoff. You need to make the moment yours. Don’t wait to act. Taking action and not waiting for the perfect moment go hand in hand.
“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” “Andre Gide”
For me, this is the most important point to convey, and it is one I am still learning: without losing sight of what you know, you cannot discover new adventures. In journeying to where I am now, I have lost sight of my original shore. While I have begun to establish myself here, I realize that I need to continue to lose sight of the shore to further grow. The next adventure may not be as crazy as the one I have already described but I am onto a new adventure nonetheless, slowly losing sight of what I currently know, because that is the essence of a growth-focused journey.
You should always find ways to enjoy your life
Never forget to enjoy yourself. This process does not have an end goal. Once you achieve what it is you are after, you are onto the next adventure. Slowly losing sight of shore to the next adventure is what gets me excited because what I leave behind will always be there, and I can revisit it when I need to. What is so thrilling and fulfilling is the journey itself because by taking small steps to the top, we become the stronger, better versions of ourselves.