What a beautiful day it is today it’s a gorgeous day today and I can’t wait to get all my work done so I can make use of this sun by going for a walk to the supermarket while listening to Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg.
Today I’ve got another feel-good/motivational type article for you, and it’s on the importance of enjoying life and becoming more fulfilled every single day. Now before you dive deep into this article, I’m not going to try and position myself like I’m some sort of life coach who knows the answer to every single question. With that being said, I do believe I have a couple of different perspectives that’ll help you and increase the quality of your life.
How To Enjoy Life
Cut out negative people in your life – Jim Rohn says to spend major time with major people, and minor time with minor people. You are the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with. This is actually a character change for yourself. A character change means monitoring the decisions you make. Are the decisions you make aligned with the person you want to be? If you want to spend minor time with minor people, will you find plans already with a non-negative person? Make a habit of every decision you make to say to yourself, “What would the amazing version of myself do in this situation?”
I am not a self-help guru but I simply want to offer perspective
There are a number of different ways that we can approach the topic of the importance of enjoying life. I’m a huge believer in looking at things through different perspectives, and for this particular topic, I’m going to take a very step-back, birds-eye-view type perspective.
I’m not sure about you, but if you have access to the internet, you have a roof over your head, you have food in the fridge and you have people in your life that love and support you
I think it is safe to say that you are pretty blessed
When we have our basic needs met (food, shelter, water, etc.), it gives us room to focus more on our wants and designing a lifestyle that’s based on our values and enjoyments. This means that there’s less stress because we don’t have to worry about where our next meal will come from or whether or not we’re going to have a bed to sleep in tonight.
With that being said, these are two easy ways that you can increase the quality of your life:
A) Recognizing that if you have the necessities met, you actually have a really good life.
B) Understanding that the quality of life that you’re living isn’t necessarily what every single person in the world is experiencing.
Around 3 months ago, I took a week-long trip to Samoa. Samoa is where my family is from, and since this was my first time going, I was really excited to see where my grandparents were brought up and meet that side of my family.
But when I got there, I was quickly reminded that the quality of living that I was experiencing back in NZ wasn’t the norm.
I didn’t stay in the touristy parts of Samoa, I stayed in the villages where the true Samoan experience was. Some of the houses didn’t even have walls, the weather was constantly in the low 30 degrees Celsius range and it was extremely humid; you would be lying down at night time and sweating because of the muggy weather.
Going overseas can completely change the way you see the world
The T.V’s that the village people had were those huge televisions with the box-like compartment at the back of them. I regularly had to shower with just 2 buckets of water: 1 big one that holds all the water and 1 small one to pour the water over me. When the water was turned off, we couldn’t go to the toilet and had to wait for the water to be turned back on again.
The crazy thing about this experience is that even though I thought it was pretty bad, there are STILL some places in the world that have even worst standards of living.
And you know what’s crazy? You probably already know this.
The standard of living is radically different worldwide
You probably already know about all the crazy wars that are happening in Syria and Iraq. Kids as young as 5 years old being buried because they’ve been caught up in the mix of some silly war, even though they’re too young to even understand what’s going on.
Or you’ve probably seen some ad on TV or on the internet about some kid starving in Africa.
Those aren’t just advertisements. Those are real-life people, just like you and me, who’re experiencing real-life problems.
For the past 4-5 years, I’ve come to understand that my life is extremely easy and I’m actually really lucky, specifically for the fact that I know there are so many more people who’re experiencing the “darker” side of life. The least I can do is show gratitude for the quality of life that I have now.
So that’s that answer, increasing the enjoyment in your life comes from:
Being grateful for the things that you already have
Understanding that there are people in the world who have it way harder than you and I do
Gratefulness is the key to enjoy your life
An actionable tip you can use is to write down what you’re grateful for on a daily basis. For example, I write down 3 things that I’m grateful for every morning and every night. I can’t remember where I got this tip from, but I’ve definitely noticed that it puts my focus on the things that I do have rather than the things that I don’t have.
And then there’s Fulfilment.
Generally, you feel Fulfilled when you achieve something. Whether you had an intense workout at the gym, or you just finished a 300-page book, or you completed a 5000-word assignment.
If you want more fulfillment in your life, it’s literally as simple as going out and achieving more. This then comes down to the goals that you set for yourself.
I think the most important thing is to have patience with the long-term goals and keep yourself busy with the short-term goals.
For example, let’s say that you’re wanting to lose 30 kgs.
The first thing you should recognize is that this is a long-term goal. It’s not something that is going to take a day or even a week, it will most likely take a couple of months or maybe even a year.
The short-term goals that lead up to this long-term goal could be something like going to the gym 3 times per week and having 1 healthy meal a day.
Short term goals keep us on track and focused
Having both short-term goals and long-term goals means that you have the opportunity to feel fulfilled every step of the way.
Did you just finish an hour-long session of cardio? Did you just prep your meals for the next 3 days? Maybe you’ve just written 1000 words of your 5000-word assignment? All of these goals are baby steps that not only lead up to your big, long-term goal but also give you mini jolts of fulfillment along the way that slowly increase your confidence.
Everyone’s life is unique and different, find what works for you.
Keep in mind all these goals should be customized to you and where you’re at: someone who’s completely new to the gym isn’t going to jump straight into a 6 day per week training routine with an intensive and restrictive diet plan.
So to sum these topics up, remember to constantly set both short-term and long-term goals for yourself so that you can always have a consistent feeling of fulfillment. And always remember to put your life into perspective; it’s easy to think that your quality of life is the “norm” when really there are many people in the world that are still trying to find where their next meal is going to come from.