We all know that our thoughts shape our moods. Negative thinking, which can be translated into having negative thoughts, will influence your mood and low your energy. Your thoughts and beliefs have an impact on your physical and mental health. Negative thinking causes negative emotions and feelings, such as depression and anxiety.
- You cannot stop something you do not control.
- You do not control a large majority of your thoughts. Many thoughts happen to you.
- Let them be. Be mindful of them. Eventually, you will react less to them; you will be less engaged by them. And, over time, they will stop arising.
- Basically, once you see your thoughts for what they are (useless, harmful, or, if nothing else, as distractions from the present moment) you will stop listening to them. Over time, they’ll just start to vanish.
- The reason thoughts stay and persist is that you entertain them. You have conversations about them inside your head.
- Don’t blame yourself for this. Thoughts are insanely addictive. Everyone talks to themselves. So much, that people think they have whole “identities” based on mere thoughts(including myself).
- The proper way to handle negative thoughts is not to try and “stop” thinking them, but through balancing them out with opposite thought, and perhaps more important, opposite action.
- The fact is that negativity is usually is a defense mechanism.
- Looking at things realistically, making sure not to apply too many filters, can reveal your problems and opportunities in a new light.
- Outcome attachment is the root of much evil, and on the other hand, independence of outcome can make great things happen. The key is to be content with what you have, but striving to be better, but doing so while enjoying the process of growing, of living.
How to stop thinking negative
Many People Don’t Understand Or Don’t Want To Accept, That Negative Thinking Has A Direct Impact On How One Feels, And Thus On How One Behaves, What One’s Attitudes Are, And What One Experiences On A Consistent Basis. Those Who Are In Denial About The Power Of Either Negative Or Positive Thinking Say Things To Themselves Such As, “Well, Just Because I Had Times When I Have Doubted My Capabilities Or Preparedness, I Have Not Failed In My Career; I Have Usually Been Successful, In Fact.”
But we aren’t talking about time to time doubts, fears, or heavy self-criticism. Being self-critical keeps you grounded in a realistic perspective on things. And there are times when it’s the right thing to feel sorrow and to grieve. We are talking about the habit of negative thinking–of always seeing things getting worse if they are going to change at all; of always feeling the worst about yourself. Habitual negative thinking only produces consistently negative results.
When you are always expecting the worst you create an attitude of pessimism. If you are constantly expecting the worst you are either thinking that somebody will do something bad to you or that you won’t be able to achieve what you want.
When you immerse yourself in pessimism you become a victim. Because if you are expecting the worst in life. Your conclusion then would be that you cannot do anything about it. You become powerless. A sign of low self-esteem.
A while ago I thought about my father. He was an Agronomy Engineering and had a farm that named it: “The Struggle”. I am not kidding, that was the real name. He always called himself an optimist. I am not judging him, but I kept asking myself why would he choose that name?.
I realized then that sometimes we keep acting out an image that is no real, and like him, I usually showed a mask that said: I am an optimist, but inside of me I knew that I wasn’t. This was a relief for me because I began to understand that negative thinking was damaging my esteem.
Having low self-esteem might lead us to believe that we will fail at achieving what we want and therefore, we live our lives with pessimism. If you expect the worst, feelings of fear and anxiety dominate your life. Having fear and anxiety empowers self-criticism and pessimism.
Optimism, on the other hand, helps to create a healthier and positive life. I am not talking about going into denial or having a Pollyanna attitude.
SOME EFFECTS OF NEGATIVE THINKING
Constant complaining. Nothing is ever satisfying or good enough. Complaining all the time leaves you unfulfilled and irritable. It also leaves you lonely; nobody wants to be around people who always complain.
A self-defeating attitude. If you have a self-defeating attitude you cut yourself off from the actions that would lead you to success and joy. Thoughts like “I’m too unattractive” lead you to be an introverted wallflower; that’s not the way to get a date or even a dance.
Negative self-talk. If you tell yourself you will fail, it does not matter how talented you really are at something; you will make yourself fail, even if through just giving up on something too soon. You also will just feel rotten about yourself, and there’s nothing pleasurable about that.
The victim mentality. No, there’s nothing you can do to improve your situation, because all of your woes can be blamed on other people–who, for mysterious reasons, wish you ill will.
Stress. Too much stress has all sorts of negative health effects, physical as well as psychological.
Tips to overcome negative thinking
Every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, say “thank you for sharing” and think a positive one.
Realize that you only hurt yourself with negative thoughts.
Read positive quotes.
If you think negatively about someone, try to look for the positive things about the person. Just make a list of the good qualities of that person.
Go for nature hikes. Get fresh air into your lungs. Look around and see and feel and smell all the natural beauty of the world. Feel your muscles working.
Accept yourself as you are. Change the things that you can change and always strive for self-improvement, but don’t ever think you need to be someone that you’re not.
Read inspirational books and download self-hypnosis programs such as: Stop negative thoughts, this download helps you feel positive now and enjoy the benefits of being much more positive. Positive thinking. the program takes you beyond positive thinking. It will help you feel and be positive and change your whole world for the better.
Remember, if you are caught up in negative thinking, you have to re-program your mind to have a positive stream of consciousness. This will take some work, and you must give it time. Think positively about learning to think positively.
The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity. Positive thinking puts you on the lookout for the possibilities in new situations. Positive thinkers don’t always expect everything to work out, but they do know how to apply a positive spin when things go wrong. A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties. Harry Truman