60 Things You Wish You Had Never Learned

things you wish you had never learned at first glance at this idea, to identity 60 things you wish you had never learned, may seem like negative or backward thinking. Personal development and self-growth should only focus on the positive – right? However, you must first acknowledge what you want to change or heal before real growth can occur.

We have all learned from the negative thoughts and experiences which have contributed to defining who we are today. At times, we have learned what amounts to be garbage about ourselves, our loved ones, and about our role, identity, and place in this world. There is no filter that has been built around us to sift through the trash we sometimes absorb.

Therefore, it is important to be your own filter. It is important to see what is working for you in your life right now and to keep doing more of that. It is also important to recognize what is not working for you and do your best to rid yourself of this garbage.

Things You Wish You Had Never Learned

Things You Wish You Had Never Learned

What we think to be true; what we think we know; what we have learned can be counterproductive to our personal growth, success, and happiness. Especially if what we have learned is keeping us from having the intimate relationships and personal satisfaction we deserve.

  • It has taken me years to figure out what I wish I had never learned.
  • I wish I had never learned that I’m not worthy to have what I want.
  • I wish I had never learned that it’s waste of time to be spiritual and to worship.
  • I wish I had never learned how to be smoke and mirrors.
  • I wish I had never learned that I could change my situation by being perfect.
  • I wish I had never learned that wearing eyeglasses is a sign of weakness.
  • I wish I had never learned that I my value was determined by others.
  • I wish I had never learned that being confident and secure was only a myth.
  • I wish I had never learned that sex equals intimacy.
  • I wish I had never learned that speaking up for my needs was a waste of time.
  • I wish I had never learned that I wasn’t enough.
  • I wish I had never learned that crying and emotions (other than anger) were a sign of weakness.
Things You Wish You Had Never Learned
  • I wish I had never learned that college would answer all of life’s questions for me (because when it didn’t I was very disappointed).
  • I wish I had never learned that my parents knew everything and that “because I said so” was a legitimate reason for listening to them.
  • I wish I had never learned that knowledge is the answer to all my desires
  • I wish I had never learned that a failure is an option
  • I wish I had never learned that I need others’ approval to think highly of myself.
  • I wish I had never learned that I need a man to be complete.
  • I wish I had never learned that it wasn’t good enough for me to be who I really am.
  • I wish I had never learned that having a positive self-image meant you were stuck up.
  • I wish that I had never learned that good girls don’t get angry.
  • I wish that I had never learned that you have to be perfect to be loved.
  • I wish that I had never learned that men want only one thing from women—sex.

I wish that I had never learned that I didn’t have value.

I wish that I had never learned that it was not ok to be me.

I wish that I had never learned that sex equals love.

I wish that I had never learned that the world is not a safe place.

I wish that I had never learned to put the feelings of others above my own feelings.
I wish I hadn’t learned that
I needed to settle for something logical and sensible – because my dreams weren’t realistic.

I wish I hadn’t learned that love is painful and the only way to get along is to never trust anyone.

I wish I hadn’t learned that I’m not “pretty enough”, “smart enough”, “thin enough” to do the things I dreamed.


I wish I had never learned that relationships required monogamy.

I wish I had never learned that marriage was important.

I wish I had never learned jealousy.

Things You Wish You Had Never Learned

I wish I had never learned to fear my own desires.

I wish I had never learned procrastination.

I wish I had never learned to ignore

I wish I never learned that the only way to be deemed successful is to have a job.

I wish I never learned that I have to be perfect to be accepted.

I wish I never learned that my needs and desires are not important.

I wish I never learned that an interest in art cannot make me money or that it can be put to good use.

I wish I never learned that spirituality is not an important part of life.
I wish I never learned striving for excellence wasn’t the norm.

I wish I never learned the end of joy-filled moments.

I wish I never learned that life is temporary.

I wish I never learned how to stop believing.

I wish I never learned to expect less from life than the best.

I wish I never learned how not to communicate.

I wish I never learned to speak more than to listen.

I wish I never learned any negative thoughts.

I wish I never learned to be untrue to myself.

I wish I never learned all the things I wish I never learned.

I wish I had never learned that it was safe to put painful experiences in the depths of my mind.

I wish I had never learned that crying shows weakness and results in nothing.

I wish I had never learned that love causes intense pain.

I wish I had never learned that childhood experiences could dictate self-worth and self-hate.

I wish I had never learned that self-worth was created and measured by others.

I wish I had never learned that destructive behavior in any form was so useful and the result is so worthless and emotionally exhausting.

I wish I had never learned that the statement, “I’m fine” was an accurate, easy answer.

I wish I had never learned that the people who may have loved you the most – really didn’t.

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